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I know what I want |
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I have a clear vision for my life and relationship. I can envision my perfect life in rich detail that feels strong, very real, and keeps me motivated. |
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I know my requirements |
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I have a written list of at least ten non-negotiable requirements that I use for screening potential partners. I am clear that if any are missing, a relationship will not work for me. |
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I am happy and successful being single |
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I enjoy my life, my work, my family, my friends, and my own company. I am living the life that I want, and I am not seeking a out of desperation and need. |
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I am ready and available for commitment |
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I have no emotional or legal baggage from a previous relationship. My schedule commitments and lifestyle allow my availablity to build a new relationship. |
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I am satisfied with my work/career |
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My work is fulfiling, supports my lifestyle, and does not interfere with my availability for a new relationship. |
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I am healthy in mind, body, and spirit |
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My physical, mental, or emotional health does not interfere with having the life and relationship that I want. I am reasonably happy and feel good. |
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My financial and legal business is handled |
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I have no financial or legal issues that would interfere with having the life and relationship that I want. |
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My family relationships are functional |
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My relationships with my children, ex, siblings, parents, and extended family do not interfere with having the life and relationship that I want. |
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I have effective dating skills |
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I initiate contact with people I want to meet, and disengage from people who are not a match for me. I keep my physical and emotional boundaries, and balance my heart with my head with potential partners. |
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I have effective relationship skills |
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I understand relationships, can maintain closeness and intimacy, communicate authentically and assertively, negotiate difference positively, allow myself to trust and be vulnerable, and can give and receive love without emotional barriers. |
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